Wednesday, September 16, 2009

The Power of Yes

We’ve been having a little experiment around here recently.

It all started because of something we heard on the radio. We were listening to Dr. Laura’s show and heard her giving advice to a frustrated mom. Her words of wisdom can pretty much be summed up in a few simple words: “You’re not saying yes enough.”
She went on, “If it’s not damaging, dangerous or terminal you need to say yes.”

The whole point was that parents (like me) can sometimes be a bit too controlling. (Um, again, like me.) By saying yes we bring some much needed freedom to ourselves and our children.

So Zac and I said to each other, “Hmmmm-maybe we should try it.”

So today I said, “Yes.” When the girls said we should make cupcakes, and when the idea to make cupcakes morphed into a party for all our nearest and dearest friends, I stifled a scream and put a smile on my face and I said, “Yes.”


So we did.

We baked cupcakes, with sprinkles inside. We called our neighbors, and I talked them down from inviting twenty guests. So we ended with three friends and one mom.


They helped to set the table and get the cupcakes ready. They helped tidy things up and put toys away.

It was a smashing success.

And it was a lesson learned.

You see, I say, “No” far too much. No to things that might make a mess, no to things that seem too uncomfortable, no to things that just don’t fit into the schedule. And when I say, “No” as much I usually do I find that oftentimes I miss out on life.

How often have I said, “No” to something that, although might have been inconvenient and unplanned, would have been a wonderful thing?
How much have I missed out on?

Now at our house we’re really rethinking things. We’ve found some freedom and realize that it’s really not that big of a deal if our youngest wants to drink her juice from a plastic teapot. If our middle child wants to run and splash in the little pool right before dinner in her underwear, is it really that big of a deal? I’m thinking not so much.

I’m saying “yes” more, and by doing so I’m embracing life. And it’s good.

I don’t really want to miss on anything else, I really want to let go and not feel the need to control everything. By saying no I was holding on to control, at least I thought I was. But all along God has been nudging me to embrace more and resist less. He has been wanting me to say, “Yes.” Say “Yes” to his thoughts and his plans, to his ideas and his views of myself.

And, yes, it’s wonderfully freeing.

What should you be saying “Yes” to right now?


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  1. Wow. I am so guilty of that as a parent, too. Thanks for this post. It's given me a lot to think about!!

  2. Hi Gina. Great post. I have been thinking of this a lot lately. Another blog that I visit also posted something about this subject and it has really been on my mind. I just told my daughter to STOP jumping in the puddle in the backyard...but, you know, I'm going to tell her to go ahead and go nuts. ;D It will be interesting to see what my husband says... LOL. Hugs and God bless.

  3. Beautifully said! Love it. I'm a follower. Your blog is lovely; I resound with your mission and look forward to more posts :).

  4. LOVE THIS! I had a similar epiphany this past Winter. I get into the habit of just saying "No", if it's anything outside the norm. Since then, I'm trying to say "Yes!" more, too. Sometimes I even host secret "Yes!" days where I say yes to every darn thing. Thanks for the reminder to keep it up!

  5. Thanks Beth!

    And I love the idea of secret "yes" days-I'll have to try these too!

  6. good stuff.. and I love the new look :)

  7. What a fun party, and a GREAT reminder!!

  8. I really love this idea! My kids would go crazy (in a good way) if I let them have a cupcake party. Thanks for the great idea. And I agree with you wholeheartedly about "saying yes" once every now and then.

  9. Gina, I'm Gina too! In addition to that, my blog is called "Random Photographs, Random Thoughts!" How random is that?!
    Love what you had to say, I remind myself all of the time how much better life always is when I say yes!


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