Thursday, August 5, 2010

Being a Grandma (Well, like one anyway)

I’m not a grandma, and it will be many years before I am.  But there’s a lot to learn from the grandma’s and honorary grandma’s in my kids lives.
Lately we’ve been spending a lot of time a family friend, who happens to be a grandma.  I love how she loves on my kids.  She slows down for them, she turns tasks that require obedience into games, she listens to them and always gives them her undivided attention.  I think I’m learning a lot from her.
I must confess that I don’t always treat my kids like that.  I can be harsh and impatient, rushing from one thing to next. When I am this way with them the only result is frustration, for them and for me.  But if I were to slow down, say yes more, listen carefully and parent with intention then things would be a lot different.  A lot better.  I think everyone knows that kids do better when they receive lots of love and attention, and saying yes a bit more often probably never hurt anyone. 
So I’m saying yes a bit more, which is surprisingly hard.  I’m slowing down and letting my to do list pile up, against my compulsion to cross things off a list.  I’m trying to be more patient and more fun.  And in all that, I’m trying to find the balance of structure and rules and all the other important things that kids need.  You know what?  It’s kind of hard.  But it’s totally worth it.
I guess the point it that a grand parent’s job is to be nice and loving and even spoil their grandkids, just a little bit.  I think as a parent I can be a bit more indulging, at least every once in a while.  I can kick back and have popcorn for breakfast and cereal for dinner, because at the end of the day does it really matter?  Is it worth the fits over cereal?  I think not.  I think I want to act more like a grandma; they shouldn’t have all the fun now should they?
DSC_0040 Cayden and I at Haystack Rock over the weekend.

3 comments:

  1. very sweet post. as a granny for only 20 months now I can tell you there is a lot of truth in your post. I wish I had slowed down and just done more with my girls, but I believe this is why God gives us grandkids...a second chance. We know how fast the little ones grow up, we know that some of the fights over what to wear or eat are not that important. In the end, we just want to soak up every minute we can with those little ones!
    thanks again for your sweet post.
    melody

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  2. I've committed a new bible verse to memory and really have been applying it to my walk, my parenting, my marriage and my attitude. "Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer." Rom. 12:12. Parenting, honestly sometimes feels like an "affliction" of sorts, and this has really been helping me change my attitude, especially when I remember to follow it up in prayer!

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  3. What a great picture of you two!

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