Sunday, July 17, 2011

it’s still yes

12 years ago today I said yes to the most amazing man.
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Well, in all truth-I said yes 12 years and 13 months ago while he looked up at me on one knee, a hopeful expression on his young 21 year old face.
And then I said “I will” to that same man, as handsome as could be in a tuxedo at a small church surrounded by our friends and family.
And today, I still say yes.  And I still think he’s as handsome as ever.
Some days I don’t want to say yes, and there have been seasons when saying yes to him and our marriage has been really hard. 
But still, I say yes; yes to his needs, yes to his priorities, yes to his leadership.  Yes, even when I don’t want to.  Yes, even when I don’t feel like being the wife he needs.  Yes, even when I’m tired and worn out.  Yes, even when there has been distance between us.
And of course I say yes when it’s been fun and easy and we’re feeling blissful in love.
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It’s easy to say yes when things are easy and going great.  It’s hard to say yes when it’s not.  But that’s when yes really counts.  I say yes not because I’m so awesome, but because I promised to.  12 years ago I said yes to him, yes to us.  In sickness and health and richer and poorer, good times and bad; I promised to say yes.  I can say yes because he promised to do the same, I can say yes to him as my husband and friend, leader and lover because I know he’s saying yes to me and most importantly to God.  That makes it easier.  I wonder where our marriage would be without God’s leadership and love in our lives.  Most likely it would not be in a good place.
After all these years I can honestly say that our marriage is better now that it has ever been.  Love has grown deeper, affections fonder, and our connection stronger.  I think that’s because we regularly say yes to us.
Saying yes at the altar was easy, but it has been saying yes in the every day choices that has really made the difference.  It is saying yes to him as I buy his favorite snacks at the grocery store, yes to his needs by taking care of my appearance, yes to his preferences.  It means I’m less controlling and more forgiving, not focused on me but always shifting my attention to him.  Basically it is placing his needs above my own.  And the cool thing about it is that he does the same for me.  It’s a win-win when we both say yes.
My answer to him is still the same as it was way back then, I will still say yes.  And if given the chance to do it over again, even the hard times, I would still say one thousand times yes. 
I adore him and I know that I have found a rare gift in this man I call my own.  I know that I’m blessed abundantly because of him in my life.  He always says that he married up, but I don’t know about that.  The longer we’re together the more I realize what a prize he is.  I long for a lifetime of saying to yes to him.
Twelve years, three kids, four homes, seven vehicles, several different jobs, one small business, one dog and immeasurable joys and laughs-that is a lot of yeses.  Today, as we celebrate 12 years of being husband and wife I’m praying for thousands and thousands more.
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8 comments:

  1. Love it! Love you guys!
    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

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  2. Aww. Congratulations! Yes is rare and you to are a beautiful couple. :)

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  3. that is the lovliest thing i've read in a long time. you two are beautiful. and thank you for sharing your encouraging words. it is hard because sometimes my husband struggles to say yes to God and therefore to me. today, when it was not easy, i chose to say yes to my husband, motivated by the fact that God said yes to me first. thankfully God reminded me that His giant yes was the only reason i needed. love this post. you are a great example to us all.

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  4. this is such a wonderful, wonderful post gina.
    congratulations to you both because you both say YES!
    xoxo

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  5. This is so wonderful and so encouraging!! I love reading about marriages where people are still in love and would chose to say yes, yes, yes I will and I do over and over again even after 12 years and 13 months. Blessings!

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  6. Yesterday, my parents were married for 41 years ~ and it's certainly been for better and worse! My husband told me, "Only 36 more years and we'll be there too!" Gotta love a good man.....Happy anniversary!

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  7. Just saw this, Gina, and how PRECIOUS. Beauty and radiance pouring out of my screen here. Congrats again on your anniversary of Yes. Love you guys, jen

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