Tuesday, June 4, 2013

what I'm not doing today




This is it. The last week of school is upon us, and it’s brought with it lots of extra activities. It’s kept this family busy, at least busier than I’d prefer.

So today I said no. I am not going to do it all. I will not be at field day, sitting in the hot sun. I will miss the dunk tank and the face painting. The Olympic style relays won’t be observed by me. I will be absent from the balloon toss. And I will be nowhere near the slip and slide. And though I’m pretty sure the kids really wanted me there, I think they had no idea what that would mean.

Because I’m not there today, I am home. At home I am doing my job as homemaker so I’ll be ready to mom on duty come Thursday. I’ll be here, doing some projects, making some dinner, stocking the fridge and catching up on laundry. My absence at the school allows me to be fully present here, where I am most needed. And by being fully present here, I will be fully equipped to be all there come Thursday.

Today I am reminded that every no I say is an inadvertent yes to something else. Or we could say it the other way: a yes to one thing means a no to another. I really want to be less busy. I really want to be more calm. I really want to be the best mom I can. And that means I just have to say no to some things so I can say yes to what really matters

Honestly, that’s not my first choice. I’d like to be the mom who is there today, playing games and tossing water balloons. Because I know it’ll be fun. But I also know that the stress I feel tomorrow would mean that I paid too high a price for today’s choices. I want to choose well. 

I was encouraged this morning as I read this:

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. (Galatians 6:4-6, The Message)

It’s my job to be a grown up and manage myself to conserve my resources of time and energy. So that means I’ll say no. And it’ll be okay.

1 comment:

  1. Amen to the Galatians verses!

    I've learned to say a lot of "no," which is weird and good for this recovering yeser. I know others -who haven't mastered the "no"- are annoyed by me, BUT this being home is temporary and sacred and important, and someday I'll be able to pick up on the "yeses."

    It's good to have you standing with me in that. :-)

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