This week my husband and I will be celebrating 14 years of marriage. I think, just maybe, we’re starting to figure this whole wedded bliss thing out. It hasn’t always been easy or fun, and I am often reminded that happily ever after is really what you make of it. It’s not effortless to have a good marriage. In fact, it’s downright difficult. The world around us would say that marriage isn’t really that important, that it can be defined however we like it; but the reality is that God invented marriage. It was his idea, and it’s the best place for us to grow up to be more and more like Jesus. It’s also the best place for us Christ followers to show the world what the love of Jesus looks like. That means it’s going to be hard. But it’s worth it. A good marriage is oh-so worth the work and effort.
Dream with each other
Share your wild crazy “if I won the lottery” thoughts with each other. Make a plan to do something crazy together. Open that business, plan that getaway, dream up your crazy shoot for the moon life plan. Planning for even the long term far away dreams draws you together because it causes you to solidify that you are in fact in it for the long haul. And everyone needs a safe place to dream out loud.
That’s why we fake it form time to time. Don’t feel like being nice? Pretend like you are. Don’t want to be kind? Do it anyway. Your heart will eventually catch up. I promise. This applies to honeymoon time as well. We’ve all been there, sometimes we just don’t want to. That’s when we pull out our inner Meg Ryan from When Harry Met Sally. I tell myself that this is gonna be great. And guess what? Once we get going it usually works out to be pretty good for the both of us, no pretending necessary. And also I’ve heard from one reliable source that guys really like to hear their wives having a good time. We can thank Meg for showing us how.