Since my kids are still young at home, I asked someone who has been there before to share their perspective. Here it is, in their own words:
When I realized that my son was living a life that wasn't consistent with that of a Christian, I spent several years agonizing and feeling sad, responsible and let down that he had turned away from God. I felt it was my responsibility to get him to turn back to God. So I took every opportunity to talk to him, ask him questions, tell him he needed to change, pray for him. I felt personally responsible; if I were a better mother, this wouldn't have happened. I felt it was my responsibility to get him to change. I felt like a failure and knew we must have done something wrong. Because he and his stepdad didn't get along, I blamed my husband a good part of the time. It wasn't a good time. I was living in guilt.
- Praying for God to help us connect better with our son and do everything we can to develop a warm relationship with him.
- Talk to him about some things that happened in the past with their relationship asking forgiveness
- Also have the open and honest conversation about where he is spiritually and again, asking forgiveness. I need this to understand.
This is day 30, catch up here.